While the idea of having my mother-in-law live with us is strenuous the reality of the situation is that my pal and I may have no choice.
- Our choices in home care are becoming more limited as her mental faculties are slipping farther and farther away.
She is childlike on most mornings and makes everyday choices that can be dangerous. My pal and I have looked into the occasion of having a home health aide stay with her during the hours while my pal and I are at labor although she seems miserable when a stranger is in the house. My pal and I can’t risk her hurting herself or others either. My pal and I need to make some adjustments to our home to make this new arrangement work. The part that my pal and I will be using as an apartment for her was never intended as a space for someone to live so my pal and I need to add a bathroom, upgrade the space with it’s own heating and cooling, and make sure that each exit has an alarmed lock so my pal and I know if she is leaving unattended; By making this safe space my pal and I can hire someone for minimum care such as meal prep and socialization instead of having a higher level of full on care. If she feels that the person is basically going to see her and having a meal with her she will be less likely to be aggressive, but she would hopefully view them as a friend instead of a caregiver. My pal and I checked into the possibilities of a separate heating and cooling component and my pal and I found that my pal and I can have a mini split component installed that can be controlled by our cellphones. My mother-in-law would not have the ability to adjust the temperature on her own so the space would not be too hot or too freezing at any given time. I am sure that this will be the best option for all of us when it is all done.