My husband and I were unhappy with each other for years before we decided to get a divorce.
Although we were reluctant to give up on the relationship, we realized that we were arguing all of the time and were miserable. The rare times we weren’t arguing, we weren’t speaking to each other. I wasn’t surprised when my husband finally suggested divorce. We’ve now been separated for a little over a year. I am still having a difficult time accepting that the relationship is over and I’m on my own. I have been worried about my future and quite depressed. I find that I get angry or even weepy over nothing much. I started to meet with a psychologist not long after all of the paperwork was finalized. I needed help sorting out the intensity of my feelings. My therapist advised exercising as a healthy and productive way of dealing with stress and depression. I wasn’t convinced this would help, but the local gym was offering a deal on a free month of membership to get started. I decided to sign up and give physical fitness a try. I didn’t have any obligation to join the gym after the month. I had access to the entire facility and all the equipment. I stopped at the gym everyday after work. I bought myself some workout clothes and a good pair of sneakers. At first, I just walked on the treadmill. I gradually increased my speed to a run and started trying out some of the machines. After two weeks, I had developed a whole fitness routine for myself. I ended up joining the gym for a full year of membership. Dedicated exercise has improved my mood and elevated my energy levels. I look better and feel better. I have more confidence and have goals.